Only the
Bodos and I knew real suffering in the monsoon of 2012.
Perfect,
they call him.
Perfect.
And everyone
agrees.
I don’t
blame them. I don’t blame anyone. With those acting skills, the guy belongs on
Broadway. Besides, you see a 4 year old, you tell the parents he is cute. And
if they choose to elaborate on it, and then conclude he’s perfect, you agree.
It’s what is to be done. A moral duty of the ranks as high as shutting up when
you hear the national anthem. Or making sad faces when a friend fails. Or
nodding sagely when a babbling teacher looks directly at you in class. No
matter how insincere the feeling, some circumstances demand that the expression
be propah.
And calling
my nephew, Vanit, cute is an obligation most fulfill rather willingly. He is
not ugly. Far from it. And as the dear darling child hides shyly in the folds
of a curtain, a distinct twinkle in his eyes, you go all “Awww…how cute…”, with
good reason. Blithely ignorant as you are, of the fact that the 15 kg gorilla
will probably pull the curtains to the floor with one vicious tug the moment
you look away.
Ten days
this…this thing is to live with me. His
parents away.
It starts
when he transfers the entire contents of my bed to the floor. Now that’s just
okay with you. But my bed? It’s like the authentic south Indian thali. There’s
a little of everything. Laundry and clean clothes. Books. Sheets. Extra sheets.
My earphones. Her earphones. His earphones. Hairclips. Original mark sheets.
Emergency lights. Newspapers. Dirty coffee mugs. Squiggly pieces of maggi. And
other assorted rubbish that has magnetically found residence with me. And as if
thus displacing my garbage wasn’t enough, he plants himself in my way, chest
swelling with pride, hands clasped behind his back, expectantly gazing at me.
What.
Thank you?
Good job?
Pompous ass…
With the
patience of a saint, the responsible bua teaches him to draw. Again that would
be okay with you. But here, flowers look like mashed masticated bananas, men
look like men…only the irrevocably disfigured jumpy dancy kind. And everything
else, for all its variety, looks exactly the same...Like hoofed paws...
So I choose
balloons. Not much that can go wrong there right?
Right?
Wrong.
He wearily
asks me, like a long suffering teacher giving an oft repeated lesson to an
exceptionally stupid student-Arrey bua!! Ye kya karri tamatar ko?!
You wait
till you grow up young man. 18 years worth of frustrated blows shall await you.
The little
glob refuses my food. Unless its “chikaan”, which he will devour raw if given
the chance. Bloody haddikhor. But anything else and he screws up his nose and
pushes away the plate with a tiny fist. As if it’s inedible. Nonsense. The
whole world lives on lightly charred vegetables. Once I offer him milk,
forgetting the bournvita and the noises of disbelief that follow, create a
ruckus loud enough to rival that of our parliamentary proceedings. Tiny fists
are surprisingly notsotiny anymore.
Kids his
age, they like real cycles and toy cars, trains that go round and round and
bricks and green red black men dressed to fight.
He just
likes to fight.
Me.
And the
greatest folly of our generation is the underestimation of little feet clad in
little shoes.
Babysitting
aint no child’s play. But this guy here makes it impossible. The baby won’t
sit. And the baby won’t let me sit. Thermocol packing from the new telly is the
dhol and as he thumps it, to randomness that pleases his fancy as rhythm, I am
given the clearest of instructions-Bua naach yaar!! What’s to be expected…I
sigh, as I awkwardly raise both arms and a leg. The man lives opposite a
banquet hall.
He sneaks up
on me if he suspects I am engrossed in something- which would be the TV
or…or…okay that’s it-and pours a full glass of water over my head. While I
recover from the surprise cold shower, he starts to snicker. Eventually my eyes
open, my mouth shuts, and I fix on him the stare that makes lesser men shake in
their boots…even makes my friends get to studies (!), but by now, I am too
late. He is on all fours. Mad convulsions of stomach grabbing head thrown back
HAHAHAs rock him. Its makes me all warm and fuzzy inside.
Still. I
stop talking to him as punishment. The guy leaves and promptly appears with a
stick in hand and proceeds to hit me with it, one question asked repeatedly
through miserable tears-kyu ni baat karri, mujse! Kar! Baat kar!
After I
teach him how wrong it is to drench unsuspecting buas, the guy hugs me so hard,
I melt on the spot. And then with petulance mastered by 4 year olds across the
world, he cries accusingly-Baat ni karti yaar tu…
And there.
That’s enough to break a heart.
We hug it
out. Till he suddenly pulls back and tugs on my hair. Then stands back.
Wondering if there will be another tantrum from the nautanki bua or will she
take it like a man this time. I laugh at the expectant gaze back in its place.
And pull his hair right back! We are lost in a tumble.
That’s how
everyone finds us. Unsurprised, they continue about their business. It’s
nothing new. They have found us like this countless times before. Rolling
around on the floor. Laughing so hard we are near tears. No one willing to let
go first.
Sooner or
later, I know he will let go. I won’t.
I can’t. But some day, he will.
Till then, I
bask in the joy of being the only person referred to as “tu”. Of being the
fellow mischief maker often and the target equally often. Of being the special
teacher who can’t draw for her life…but still the one who taught him that
Kareena Kapoors secret code name is maal,
and that the Vanshika girl in his class is pretty. Of being treated like an
equal. Not another boring overbearing adult. Of being anything he needs me to
be.
Together we
make a team. Hell, we make a whole baraat when we want to!
But for now
its time for Vanni boy to go back home. I ask him his name. Again.
Master Vanit
Joshi.
Secret code
name? I whisper.
Master Vanit
Joshi Teddybear Hanuman Camel Joshi, he whispers back.
We high
five.
You be bad,
I tell him.
With a flash
he realizes he has to go. Guy breaks down, holding on to my clothes. We see the
filmi scene through. When we feel sufficiently dehydrated, I remind him how it’s
just us two against the world. He agrees heartily and bids his goodbyes.
I go up to
the street so I can wave till he’s out of sight. He keeps shouting Bye! Baaaae!
Gunnyt! ja ra! And shoots flying kisses like I taught him.
Midway, he
turns around and runs back to me, announcing loudly, as if it makes perfect
sense,
Main kare to
saala!
Main pade ke
paala!
I don’t try
to think what it means. Its some song, obviously remixed by DJ Hanuman
Teddybear Camel.
And god!
Yes.
I admit. In
this moment, if someone tells me the son of a gun is freaking perfect, I’ll
probably agree.